Ashildr Knightmare

NSFW | My fetish's and kinks as single, over 35, female sub | I like DD/lg, denial, D/s, CNC, and sparkly things | PNW | If you want any of your content removed from my blog, message me and I'll take it down.

All About AshildrK: Ds, Kinks, and Popular Links

Hi, I'm Ash,

I'm a sub. It is simply a part of who I am. I also painfully introverted, over educated, addicted to cartoons, run a company, and sometimes even eat a balanced meal.

I'm drawn to little things, cnc, orgasm denial and sadistic Daddy-Doms. I value loyalty, quality, leadership, and wisdom.

D/s for me is a 24/7 relationship - it is not simply in the bedroom, but rather a way to create the rules of a relationship, that honors and fulfills the needs and desires of those involved by maximizing communication and respecting each other.

Learn More About the Differences between D/s and BDSM CLICK HERE

"So D/s (shorthand for Dominance and submission) is the catchall for a defined Power Exchange relationship. If we think of it like a marriage, it becomes relatively easy to understand that D/s does not require sex...In a Power Exchange relationship it’s things like what areas of the relationship and “life stuff” will be given control of to the identified “Dominant” partner, aka the leader.

None of it is about sex.

BDSM is a sexual style. .... Just because D/s and BDSM are more often seen together, doesn’t mean that they aren’t mutually exclusive."

Core of D/s for me:

Communication, respect, and love are the core of a D/s relationship for me. (Search #words to learn more)

The Core of BDSM for me:

Kink is the cherry on top of the D/s relationship. The stronger the D/s bond the more fully present I can be as a sub.

Common needs of Doms I respect

1 - Respected

2 - Obeyed

3 - Honored

4 - Looked to for guidance

5 - Admired / Loved